TIA - VICTIM MENTALITY

What is "victim mentality"? When you feel powerless over what is happening to you. This causes one to place blame on everyone else for life problems or hurdles. It is a feel of your life being out of control. It is a hard way to live thinking the world is against you.

Sometimes the victim is gaining a payoff by being stuck in victim mode. Here are few examples:

• An abused women repeated getting attention from family and friends every time she is attacked by her abuser

• Financial hurdles because of a job loss, an illness, an accident or whatever has initially caused financial problems

• A spouse leaving the marriage when one did not want the marriage to end

• There can be a thousand, if not millions of reasons causing victimhood

Life experiences are often our of our control. It can cause self-worth issues and one can create their own personal shields for protection. Thinking of self as the victim can help a person feel better. The alternative could lead them to believe they deserve what is happening (no one deserves that). Sometimes even thinking about accepting responsibility for ones' life events is too traumatizing a reality; one cannot fathom how or why when they believe it is NOT their fault. And this can be true, sometimes life just happens beyond your control. However, sometimes we bring things on ourselves without realizing we are doing so. The only way to discover the difference is to begin to heal and see where it takes you.

It's an oxymoron - to attempt taking responsibility in life can have the reverse effect of somehow thinking one deserves all the bad luck they are experiencing.

To begin to take responsibility for life circumstances, one must realize they did not deserve what happened. The situation was done to them not because of who they are. It can cause trauma to the person. The first step is to understand the truth about fear if one is to begin a healing journey.

One must also decide they no longer want to remain in victimhood. To do so begins a journey of freedom leading to the move from victim, to thriver. The first step into facing your fear is realizing fear is a bully.

Let's TURN IT AROUND!

When one begins the journey of moving away from victimhood it eventually leads to becoming a thriver. To thrive means to find your personal power through using tools for a stronger you.

Is it time for you to take charge of your life? Feel the fear and do it anyway!

This blog details my personal healing journal over the past 2+ decades. I am not a medical professional and offer this information freely as personal research only.

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